A MAN'S WORLD
02.23.08 (4:09 am) [edit]A knock. A simple knock, it was. But a knock that seemed to open a flood gate of the male world. My friend claimed “to be in the neighbourhood” .Two hours later only came to reveal what you would not hear from someone who seems to have the almost perfect life. He wanted to let off steam. So I gave him my ear. My friend is happily married to a woman who he has known for the past a couple of years. They seem to have quite a happy life on my few visits there. In fact theirs is what I would call a good home. Warm, pristine, happy. What then could have gone wrong? We males, should I say, somehow do not fit within the image of what in women’s eyes seems so to be the right thing. When they demand we stay home, we want to down a pint at the local pub. Women want to shut the television and talk when it is the “Champions League “on tonight. It just does not make any sense. After all your salary pays all the bills, buys all the expensive china (just for show off to her friends), and that’s not enough. Refuse them all that they want and you will spend a night in arguement. What is wrong with women, I ponder? Knowingly or knowingly they drive us to seek other “short-term solutions”. My friend almost has it all. Which is more than an individual like me has accomplished: a good home. A huge-well furnished house. A lovely young bride. A car in the garage. A baby in the works. A good paycheque.Unfortunately, it is what we all around him were led to believe. Little did we know that due to his wife nagging him to be always around like a coat wrapped around an animal, the home did have unseen cracks. A man is pushed to the extreme polar upon accusations of “where were you?Let’s sit and cudle” all the time. Shush, please. I want my life like it used to be .I will search for that “short-term solution” if you don’t give me my piece of mind. Bill Watterson couldn’t have put it any better when he said: “I have a hammer! I can put things together! I can alter my environment at will….Ah, it’s great to be male!” With this in mind it’s isn’t very difficult to figure out ,why ,it is with ease, that a man can find a replacement; who does not require answers to the Who, Where, When, Why and What questions. This generation is no longer in a state where women have no equality in the marriage partnership .Both gender are allowed to have careers, own property, and so forth. But then again women want to have it all .Have a career with a good pay to boot and let the man pay all the bills. Have him sit at home and let him do all the housework. The woman meanwhile having heard Cindy Lauper‘s Girls Just Wanna Have Fun decided to experiment with the message in the song with her friends. I do not fault my friend for his decision to find another “solution” to get rid of his problem. Of course I told him: “try to work it out”, after thinking hard. But then what is wrong if a man just want to have some time separate from his significant other? Hey these are just my points of view-what are yours?
posted by: OldSchool (reply)
post date: 02.23.08 (8:08 am)
My point of view is that you should work these types of details out before you commit to marriage and more importantly commit to having children. This is what the engagement time period is for. You need to make sure that both the man and woman have a clear understanding of the expectations of the other. The only way it works is with compromises and give & take.
With a child on the way, he owes it to that kid to figure this thing out and make it work in any way possible. Every situation is a little different, but that's my general point of view in a nutshell. I could probably go on much longer, but I will spare you. Hope all is well tarroc.